“Success and disappointment walk hand-in-hand”, that’s how many view life. Great leaders and idealistic young men, totally or in part, will agree with this view. However, one has to learn how to deal with the pain brought by disappointment in order to fully enjoy the fruits of success. Following are some techniques helpful in turning failures into success as you thread the road to overcome disappointments.
Ignore the Critics
* Turn your ears away from critics howl and don’t be a skeptic! Believe in yourself! Remember… Success is just one percent pure talent and 99 percent dedication and determination.
Keep Your Head High
* Instead of running away from troubles and trials in life – Face them and look at them straight in the eye! Keep your head high and say, “You’re no match against my powers. I can overcome you!
Get a “Failure” Trash Can
* Albert Einstein, Walt Disney, and Michael Jordan - what do these “men of success” have in common? They all experienced frustrations and failures somewhere in their lives. But what made them successful – they threw away the evidences of their disappointments and made the first step to reach their dreams. Do you get it?
Write About It
* Studies have suggested that writing down your painful experiences and emotional events help in clamping down stress and encourages healing. You can start put anything down on paper.
Wear an Armor
* Don’t misinterpret the saying “All things happen for a reason.” Never have the wrong thoughts that disappointments is like a magnet, where you are attracted into. Create an imaginary bubble where you can hide yourself at the sight of potential failures.
Look at Things from a Distance
* In a game of chess, one can clearly sees his position ably and clearly if he will look at the chessboard at a distance. Same in life, you have to back away with some distance to see so you can see the real picture experiences bring.
Pamper Yourself with Gentleness
* When disappointments enveloped your heart and mind, just be cool. Don’t ever scream or shout back at yourself! The situation will never be change even if you shout on top of your voice blaming yourself for the bind your in. Be calm and speak to yourself with gentleness. You deserve one.
Create a Pearl
* Marvel at how a naïve oyster can turn an irritating grain of sand into a beautiful, white pearl. So, let your disappointments and failures form a highly-prized pearl.
Dancing in the Rain
* My dad once told me, “Son, don’t wait for the typhoon to be over before you make your next move,” “You must learn how to feel the coldness it brings by dancing in the rain.“ Get my point. You’ll never know how deep is a river unless you jumped into it.
Nurture Your Roots
* Learn perseverance from the bamboos. Frail and with few leaves, yet.. they can withstand storms… Why? Because their roots are firmly planted on the ground.
Take a One step-at-a-time Strategy
* Haste makes waste as the old adage dictates. Study the butterfly’s life cycle – from a fragile caterpillar, then passing a cocoon stage, finally transforming into a colorful butterfly ready to flap its wings.
Let Cracks to Set in
* Have you ever wondered, why cracks appear in your career, relationship, or personal plans? It is not there to suggest that your endeavor is a failure, but rather, it is an opening for light to come in.
Get Up and Keep Trying
* The scriptures say, God don’t count the number of times we fall, rather the number of times we get up! So if disappointments knocks you down to the ground five times, then stand up six times.
Join the Race
* Put on your running shoes go and run in the human race. This is the arena where you’ll gain knowledge about mistakes and disappointments, reflecting on them as you pass over them, and turning each failure into knowledge, and growth.
Hold onto Hope and Believe in Miracles
* My formula for success, hold onto hope and expect miracles to happen… they do come when you least expected them!
You must experience rain to enjoy the sunshine so much more. Thanks for the tips.
ReplyDelete"Look at things from a distance" - This is what I usually do when I come face to face with a stressful situation. It gives me a better insight on how to get out of the rut. My dad also told me to always have something to write on. The problem will be the title and then on either half of the paper, I have to right down the "pros" and "cons". Sometimes, being "visual" really helps. Thanks for sharing this. Great read on a lazy afternoon.
ReplyDeleteI like this advice: "Get a failure trash can." This is equivalent to thinking positive and using your failures as inspiration to succeed in life.
ReplyDelete"Write About It" that's how I cope. I always write down a painful experience then after a few months look back at it and it seems like nothing . I always marvel at the fact that the greatest obstacles always bring the greatest rewards ... good stuff
ReplyDeleteGood tips. I will keep these in mind.
ReplyDeleteThese are valid points. But as for writing about it, here's my thoughts as a blogger, remember never to specify names or you might get yourself into trouble for slander etc especially if the person responsible for your disappointment sees it. This is a personal experience which I will elaborate on it next time!
ReplyDeleteAll these tips are great but I personally love the part when you mentioned the chess part. Indeed, we have to take some time to look at things from a distance to see the clearer picture. But more often, we need some people to help us with that. :)
ReplyDeleteI have to also agree with Tiffany. It's okay to write down your disappointments on experiences or even people as long as it's not in the internet. :)
Think positive. Put in good energy and positive remark in yourself for the breakthrough.
ReplyDeleteCreate a pearl -- beautifully stated. Create something positive out of adversity. This is the best advice of all.
ReplyDeleteHolding your head high is great advice - along with the other points. Disappointment is always hard to overcome, easy to say dust yourself off, it just takes time. Sim x
ReplyDeleteDisappointment is always painful. It's really just how you deal with it is what's important. These tips are definitely on the mark. :D
ReplyDeleteReally, this article is true; some did some items here and others too. For me, I wrote a novel of my experiences in Dubai City. Now it's approved by National Bookstore for publishing. It will be launched 2 months from now and I look forward in marketing aspect.
ReplyDeletevery insightful post with valid points. but frankly speaking, some of them are really easier said than done. those aren't things that we can do it as long as we tell ourselves to do it as stated on paper.
ReplyDeleteGreat list of advise, i'd say! All make sense and should be remembered by everybody who've experienced disappointment before (who doesn't, right?), i personally 100% swear by the writing down the bad experiences, i always feel much better after penning them down and ready to face the world again!
ReplyDeleteSome absolutely great life matra's here. A fab post x
ReplyDeleteI like the failure trash can. It's really important that we get the lessons from disappointments and just move on.
ReplyDeleteBeautiful! I love this post and it came to me at the perfect time. I do believe in miracles. Thank you!
ReplyDeleteKeeping faith and believing in yourself can tide you through the worst! Writing helps.. true!
ReplyDeleteThanks for sharing this. Sometimes when we faced disappointments and down we need to remind ourselves to get up and march on.
ReplyDeleteNot easy to deal with disappointment.. But thanks for sharing this useful tips..
ReplyDeleteI always get disappointed and I always end up sulking after every disappointment because I don't know how to overcome them. Maybe I should get a 'Failure' trash can.
ReplyDeleteThanks paps! ^_^
I love this post! I surely agree with all the posts here. Ignore the critics and do your own thing!
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